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Toast to recognition of each other’s humanity

Today, was one of the best Friday that I have enjoyed, thus far.

1. It’s humbling to be at Manual Arts High School and create a space where there’s dialogue between students. Facilitating conversations about violence, intersectionality, cultural capital, creative consciousness, and more. Opening it up to not just definitions but trying to challenge students to think beyond that just amazes me. I learn so much from our staff and our students. It’s a blessing to be in such a space!

2. Listening to Dr. Dave Stovall speak! I was sitting there like YAAASSSSSSSSSSSSSSS! Great speaker. Thankful for workshops like this that makes me grow more as a person. Learning and understanding social justice topics that matter!

He talked about how we must recognize our humanity and other’s humanity. Recognizing that we are people of color. If we are unable to see the humanity of the people we’re with, then we have nothing left. My interpretation of that is if you don’t recognize me for who I am, you don’t recognize me at all. Don’t say that “I am not Asian enough, or too Asian” because that’s not recognizing who I am. The color of my skin does not change, and neither does yours. Don’t disregard my race or ethnicity because I might not fall into the stereotypical assumptions of yours. And if I do fall heavily into a certain category, that’s not the only thing that I am. There are intersectionality in all of us, and that makes us who we are. Multidimensional people.

He also mentioned that oppressors may make us recognize what we don’t like from “our” kind and say things like you’re included because you’re not like “them.” That creates conflict. No matter how you pull away from your culture, you’re still a part of it. Again, if they don’t recognize other’s humanity than there’s nothing left. Don’t compromise who you are for someone who doesn’t recognize your humanity.

I also love the way he uses Stockholm syndrome in his example. He pretty much said Stockholm syndrome is generating false love for our oppressor and that usually happens in kidnapping.

Moreover, he talked about how people need to create / use collective spaces to heal and not cope. deep ass shit yo. Coping is temporary while healing is longevity. Healing spaces create growth and helps you move forward.

He brought up a quote from Paulo Fredric (I think that’s the name) that Education for Liberation is a painful child birth where we recognize the injustice of the oppressor and freeing the oppression is freeing ourselves. I may butchered some words for a bit but I WAS LIKE WOW.

I also remember something about Love is responsibility. Create spaces where you are loved. Operate and organize in a space of love.

Shit I’m sorry if all of this is a hot mess, it’s just things I took quick notes on and very disorganize. But if ya’ll feel me then ya’ll feel me. ANYWAYS.

He also said white supremacy, patriarchy, and ways of oppression effects people in different ways. Yet those people play out our differences. The want us to believe that we should tolerate people. But instead of tolerating people we should understand the assumption of tolerance. Such that working with someone we hate, that’s tolerance.  .. womp I wish I remember more of what he said about this .. but he continues and said things like think about how practices (white supremacy, patriarchy, hegemony, and etc) impact us. And we must learn in terms of how we have no power and how to create power.

Also how they created terms like  oppression Olympics to have us turn against each other and compare each other to see who struggles more. We cannot be judgmental on how people come to struggle. We all ended up in the same hell.

We should also understand and engage in intentional political projects. And that we must make spaces inclusive and meeting folks where they’re at.

End meetings with criticisms, self criticism, and moving forward from that.

To share, facilitate, and create dialogue with people means to work and support them in their community. Don’t think that you can just come and swoop the place up because you’re from _____ university or so. Remember that university operates within colonial spaces.

So in the end. Remember why and for what are we doing it for, in the work that we do (lol that’s a mouthful)


Toast to almost 23 but not really

I was trying to reflect on my almost 23 years of life [insert my selfie here]. And thought it’d be awesome to express it in a spoken word piece. This is what I have so far …

In a month in a half
I’ll be 23
This is a toast to my Jordan year
And that’s a real shout out to my sneakers
hashtag jk but not jk
this is a toast for being alive
for experiencing a death of a loved one

and then I froze. you’re not here with me.
there are so many firsts that I have to go through without you.
my first christmas without you, my first new years without you, my first tet without you, my first birthday without you.
some days I feel like it is so hard for me to get out of bed,
to want to see sunshine when I know that you’re not here with me
some days I am just on autopilot trying to not feel any sort of emotional recklessness
some days I just feel so overwhelmed with thoughts of you consuming my brain
and some days I am just plain old me
but when I come back to this apartment, I feel so detached and separated from our family
I feel so alone without you

There are people telling me to be more positive.. I feel that every time I take a leap, the world challenges me with rain and thunder. December: ||| , January |||, February | . That’s a total of 7. They say bad things come in 3s .. so I am just waiting for 2 more.